The guys could easily hear and understand other men’s voices. However, women have a greater natural melody in their voices and possess a more complex range of sound frequencies than a male voice.

The men in the study had a harder time deciphering them and really hearing what a woman was saying. When they heard the female voices, they had to decipher them using the part of the brain that processes music — a more complex process than is used in the part of the brain that analyzes a male voice.

This process may worsen as we age. Or we may lose some of our hearing for other reasons.

Also, Dr Michael Hunter, co-author of the study, noted that voices allow the brain to determine various factors about a person’s appearance, including sex, size and age.

It is much more complex than most people think and is an extremely important tool for determining someone’s identity without having to see them.

So, when listening to a woman’s voice, a man must make an extra effort subconsciously or consciously, to concentrate on what he is hearing. If he can’t (or won’t), then I guess he has an excuse for selective hearing.

Dr. Paul H. Deutsch is board certified in internal medicine and a member of The William W. Backus Hospital medical staff.

They began saying things like: "You didnt have to beat him like that. He was probably just hungry." the other men nodded and Commented "yea yeah!" In agreement. None of them asked if i was ok, none of them said its a shame. None of them expressed any empathy at all. They looked at me in disgust for standing up for myself. Not one of them cared.

I don't think that we can afford to assume that because a person is male that they will offer anyone protection, or will stand up to others who abuse us. Also peep this. Do you notice that young and older males always come up to women for money? They don't go up to men asking for money even though men STILL make more. ~ Haseena Love

By: ~ TVP Jones

Maybe I'll post this as a blog. Felt it necessary to weigh in, although I know several sisters and brothers have done a better job of doing so.

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So the topic of street harassment has gone viral YEARS after many sisters have been organizing around it on and offline. The video that I'm sure many of you have seen isn't the strongest example, but it is an example. It has it's problems, as all expressions of activism do. The response to it has issues as well, which are indicative of whose voices our society values when a statement is made. A black woman, Jessica Williams, made a similar video on a much larger platform (The Daily Show) that was significantly more equitable. But there were crickets.

I know women who have written articles for Essence, Ebony, The Root, been on panels, and advocated for an end to this form of rape culture WHILE organizing marches for Trayvon Martin and Mike Brown, or while making films to get Ted Wafer arrested for murdering Renisha McBride.

Unfortunately, a lot of brothers in the community have yet again made it their priority to belittle, dismiss, discount, or attempt to silence these stories, to end this discussion. Often this is done under the pretense that black feminists aren't standing against police brutality. Which is counterintuitive, because black women, whether they identify publicly as feminists or not, have been the primary conduit through which social justice organizing has remained on point and consistent since there was any movement to speak of in this country.

Somehow, it is necessary in our community for black women to understand and empathize with black men when our humanity is diminished by stop and frisk, mass incarceration, police brutality, and the myriad forms of institutionalized racism we endure. Black men often empathize to a lesser degree when a black woman faces those very same forms of oppression (see the attention given to any black man killed by the police, and contrast it to the murders of Ayanna Jones and Renisha McBride).

When black women discuss their concerns about safety, how they feel abandoned by us despite their desire to protect us, feel disrespected by the elements of hip-hop we often champion publicly, and when we dismiss their shared experience of street harassment, or any other type of rape culture, we often attack them in response. There is a word for that . Patriarchy. It has many subsets. Sexism is one of them.

Now, some of my leftist and nationalist brothers may get incensed at the idea that we as black men benefit from any system of privilege in America. That reminds me of Bill O'Reily's outrage at the mention of white privilege on the John Stewart show, and failure to identify with it because he grew up working class, and didn't have the same kind of access as wealthy whites.

These points are made out of brotherhood and love. We need to be aware of what we're doing to our women, and how it affects them. They fight for us. They have since we were on plantations picking cotton or cane or coal from can't see in the mornin' till can't see at night. They healed our wounds when we got whipped. They organized when we got lynched. They marched alongside us. They helped us get our shit together when it wasn't. They help us finish school, find jobs, feed families, and raise them. And so much more. They fight for us. And when we are asked to fight for them, many of us turn a cold shoulder and dismiss them because WE feel attacked.

I'm not on a high horse here. Trust, I've made my missteps as a black man toward black women, and TRUST, I've been checked HARD for them. I've also been checked for the missteps of others, and had to learn to listen, and not take it personally. Every now and then, I still fuck up. Just like my white friends who are pretty aware of how they benefit from racism in America fuck up some times too. Part of being human.

Why am I so invested in ending street harassment, patriarchy, and sexism? I'm a son, a cousin, a "brother" (only child y'all), a boyfriend, a teacher, an uncle, a baba, and one day will be a father. I have cousins who are like my little sisters who have been sexually assaulted. My mother told me stories of how she was catcalled as a pre-teen and as a teenager in Hempstead. My cousins are catcalled and street harassed daily. If only this conversation were as personal to more of us, if we could listen with that kind of empathy. I wish my cousins had the kind of courage to step forward and find communal healing in sharing their experiences the way that Jamilah Lemieux, Feminista Jones, Sydnie Mosley, Ekere Tallie, and so many others have.

While thinking of the blacklash our women face while combating patriarchy/sexism in our community, I think about something that Mariahadessa Ekere Tallie shared with me. She introduced me to a quote from the late Amiri Baraka: "All the black women in those militant black organizations deserve the highest praise. Not only did they stand with us shoulder to shoulder against black people's enemies, they also had to go toe to toe with us, battling day after day against our insufferable male chauvinism."

We need to do better, hold ourselves accountable, and not recoil when checked. If we seriously want to improve our people, our condition, we gotta listen and change. Sure, there is plenty of work to do. There are many issues at hand, many battles to fight. But we're a polyrhythmic people, so we're capable of being aware and active on multiple fronts.

"You have to criticize the errors you've made because that's the only way you can break them." - Amiri Baraka.

Things that make ya go hmmm

What would the world be like, if women that have or desire sons (this is basically a willful choice to birth the future face of rape and murder for women and girls) raised their sons to be good. Not to be "men who work and provide" alone, but whole and healed as individuals. Who then have something to offer women? What if they raised their sons to respect and honor women? Instead of raising them to lord over women or to game on women sexually, financially, emotionally, spiritually etc. What if they raised their sons to not be entitled to the flesh of girls and women? Would we need burkas? Would little girls be raped? Would women be blamed for a v-neck when she is raped?

What if the women, who create males and thus maleness, raised them males to reverence, honor, respect, and worship women as God personified? What if Mothers of Sons didn't drag their future rapists into the women's bathroom, thus teaching him he has a right to exist in women's only space? (and we wonder why trannies want into the bathroom now...)

What if mothers didn't drag their children into misogynist houses of worship? What if mothers instilled to their children that SHE is their God, as the Single Force that cultivated and laboriously birthed them into existence? What if mothers didn't teach their sons that man and god were synonymous? While also teaching them that the Creator of Human Life (the female) is a tempestuous jezebele, inherently sinful and cursed? What if Mothers didn't teach their sons that it is ok to sport fuck through women, so long as its the "low ones?"

What if mothers taught their daughters to be Strong, inner-powered, go getters, self starters, and aware that They alone are the center of their universe?

What if women, mothers, of male children actually had to be accountable for what their sons do!? What if, after failing to turn out a non-rapist/non-abuser/non-misogynist; the mothers of sons were made to be punished for their treason against Wombn and Girls? What if every single time a man beat, raped, murdered a woman his MOTHER is the one who had to account for her choice to birth him? And I mean deeper than the "well where was his mama" commentary on facebook. What if, as a society, we made women account for the product of their wombs and its impact on society? What if women were jailed for birthing rapists and murderers?

What if we actually addressed the real problem?

The problem isnt men.

The problem is the women who have/will/want to give birth to them. And this has always been, our problem. As long as women are the sex-class, the class of humans reserved as sex and for sex, this will continue. Mothers of Sons ensure that we all remain enslaved so that they can "try" to be god. The War between women was waged by mothers of sons, who refused to cast away their degenerate products anymore. Instead they warred us, so that they might raise these beasts and try to become Gods by making him more than an animal. To this day, all women and all girls pay so that Mothers of Sons can try to be god over animals. 

Questioning the "sanitation" in Menstrual Products

*Owning they are immature asshats
*Focusing on their own inability to control their penis
*Mastery of their sexual expression, outside of these gay ass "i put it down" circle jerk sessions they have. 
*Refusal to measure their worth, value, and power by the wake of broken hearts, abused yoni's, and tortured wombs left behind them. 

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