You see it a lot in publications aimed at bw like essence. Whereas publications that lean toward other groups of women emphasize a sugary type of help. But help is help. I listen to a biz related podcast and most of the women mention getting their parents to give them seed money.
Most bw don't have the type of family setup where they can ask their parents to take out a home equity loan. How can you climb higher when you don't believe you need the help?? So when the bw enters the healing waters... she isn't ready for those waters to be hot. To lick at the wounds. TO pull them back open. We are masters of delusion, skilled in convincing ourselves "we shall overcome" and "lawd jesus, just let me walk a little further"