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Veneration of the Dark Godis is Veneration of the Whole Wombn. Our Power is in Darkness, but first wo-men have to leave our patriarchal conditioning behind - leave the father's house and his rules! Embrace the Way of the Womb!
I sat reflecting and releasing this morning. My father has children by a different wife, children he has before he met my mother. My half brother is 47 years old now. When she was 14, he raped his sister, my half sister. I have never forgiven him and I never will. I am thankful, though, that my mother never let my fathers sons be around us. I wish she was that way the all the family males! I might have come out of black girlhood untouched by the black male's rapist hands. When it comes to the Black Daugher, trust no one! No male should ever be given the "benefit of doubt." There isn't even any benefit to doubting. It is a destructive process that enables the dehumanizing of our girls, while we hope the males display recognition and respect for their own.
My sisters, my whole full blood sisters, are all friends with this man on Facebook. They call him and accept him as their brother. They like his shyt and play around with him giggling.
But they do not speak to me. For a multitude of reasons.
1. I stopped enabling my mothers abuse and use of me. Wounded Mothers are a burden, especially when they wont seek HEALING!
2. And most importantly, as this is the CRUX of the issue: I made the family deal with the Molestation and incest problem from the males in our family.
Note: my half sister was barely a teen. But they have forgiven him for raping her. They won't forgive me for bringing It up, though. They blame me as if I caused it for daring to seek healing myself.
And that is one example of how black women enact, enable and co-create with rape culture. They ain't friends with our half sister. But they friends with that black male rapist f*ck who attacked her. Black women need to do better. Black womens sadistic loyalty to black men, even when they rape and abuse or murder us, is the cause of the imbalance in our sisterhood. It is time for a Sisterhood Revival!! The only way out is by going within to heal and restore ourselves, so we can be healing and restoring one another.
If you or someone you know has survived sexual abuse or trauma, and needs healing help?
Deva Fiyah is a Priestess, Anthropologist, Feminist, and Feminine historian. She has helped women from all around the world, actualize their Goddess Power, with Healing, Retreats and Courses in Self Mastery.