Unloved Daughters: In search of the Lost Black Feminine

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We are gearing up for Mother's Day, a day internationally recognized in honor of the people who give us life. But there is another side. A darker, colder, meaner, more confusing side of the story. One that requires our careful and nuanced attention and consideration.

I wish we could be honest. I just began to play with makeup. As a grown azz woman. The goal post was always being moved. It was bad enough I was shapely and young and innocent, which men LOVE and LUST FOR in young women..... this made her feel competitive and even jealous of me enough to sabotage my esteem and accuse me of trying to garner unwanted male attention just living and breathing.

That wasn't enough. It went from when your 16 to 18 to when you move out. By then it had been cemented in me that enhancing my mind was more important than any investment in my beauty. This was true for me and most other girls I knew. Some would sneak clothes and makeup to school and change. Others of us were too frightened of our mothers finding out so we just towed the line until we were grown/married women.
The only time I ever remember seeing my mother apply makeup? I was 20. And we were going To my aunties funeral. The foundation was way too light. And I remember coming down stairs and screaming (because I was genuinely frightened) "what the hell happened to your face mommy!?"

Her mother was QUEEN of glamour. Was very angry with my mom for giving up the feminine. My Nanna was a fox who wore fox and pearls. Had a vanity table that would put Liz Taylor to shame. My mom was so hopelessly anti-feminine. By the time she became a mother, it seems the feminine died for her. And she was eager to kill it in we her daughters.

So, while I am PROUD that women who are mothers now, might be invested in the feminine and HONORING their daughters feminine growth and rites of passage, there is a WHOLE SWATH of grown daughters just getting into glamour and into the feminine frequency.

Furthermore, given the FACT that bm are so predatory and absolutely defunct when it comes to being Masculine Protectors..... many bw beat the feminine out of their girls in anger and in sadism as well as in defense of them. We have to be honest about bm hatred of femininity in bw. Because then he is REQUIRED to not just imbibe on it, but protect it and encourage its reproduction in future generations.

And we have to be honest about our mothers acts of complicity with these beasts. They didn't fight, they didn't deny these hyper-Masculine predators access. They acquiesced and beat or discouraged us to "protect" us from their naturally predatory disposition. This is horrible and has negatively impacted our connection to The Feminine.

HOW CAN WE BE FEMININE FLIRTY GIRLY when the males of our cohort ABHOR these qualities in us and do all they can to abuse, trick, pimp, and prey on? I GREW UP in a place where we could be little girls. Upon moving to blackistan, I had to quickly learn that:


Smiling
Wearing pretty things
Wearing light or bright colors
Speaking
Lookin people in the eye
Having an inviting or pleasant look on your face

Etc all made you prime prey. It was a girl from the hood who taught me how to survive in and among blackistani residents. I had no concept of this, even though my mother still raised us as a bw mother would, to prevent the predatory mess.

I may have been abducted by a mf pimp if not for that girl. Because where I grew up, you spoke to your neighbors. You said good morning. We spoke to the elders, male and female. But you cannot do this in blackistan. The feminine frequency is under siege there.

We have to be honest about what is happening. And every single discussion about black femininity requires NUANCED thinking, which is not the black womans strong suit. We have to remember multiple generations are involved, demography and geography also adds and sometimes alters the experience. Exceptions to the rule do not change the rule. They exist in the realm of variables, again nuanced thinking Is required.

Or we can continue to take the easy way out and claim they and the media are at fault. Even still, this comes back to bm and THEIR MEDIA depictions of bw and girls in the last 30 years. Now that bw have MORE POWER AS CONTENT CREATORS, it is on Us To produce images we want to see. It absolutely is. We must do this. We have to take control of our own image and of black woman the brand.

Each of us can do this wherever we are. Let's get creative. With that said, I present my new class:


Dark Magic: Glamour. In this course I will be teaching you about ENERGY and channeling. If you do not know how to channel, you will NOT be able to use the Power of the Feminine Frequency for more than the surface. Symbols are powerful, imagery is powerful, and our ability to present and represent Black Wombn The Brand is POWER PERSONIFIED. The Godis has 1,000 faces and 10,000 names. Being able to channel the Godis, using not only surface glamour of hair nails and makeup, but inner energy, is your birth rite and power. PayPal.me/MysticEnchantress/55

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