"Bashing" Men is a crime, but Silencing the Daughter is Fine

This Blog Post is the result of a month's worth of Thinking and Shows about the relationship between Women and Mothers of male children. If you should decide its about you, please take a moment to meditate on the concept of FOR YOU vs AT YOU. <3

Ut Oh, she's Blogging again! Hide yo kids! Hide yo WIFE!

I have said it before... and I stand by it regardless:

MOTHERS OF SONS are the enemy of women's (individual and collective) growth and development. Because the investment is always going to be in maintaining what we know. The thing I am learning, though, is that this is how it was intended to be. Because some of us just don't WANT to be mothers. Some of us see it as a TRAP.

But the DOMINANT narrative, the privileged voice, is that of the mother. Double it if she has a son. 

Forever, the daughter is tortured, questioned, expected to conform, to pretend that the truth isn't what it is. Her attempts to unpack the patriarchy will FOREVER BE UPENDED by the mothers of male children. She will be shouted at by females, quoted dickist-theories written by dickist males, and what recourse does she have? In a global system that has blotted out the female voice and presence from every science, every field of study, every single field of operation PERIOD for hundreds of years... WHAT pray tell, does the Daughter Have in her arsenal against a patriarchal faux matriarchy that attempts to en-culture her to uphold the status quo?

Are the women who attack me going to go after that fuk nigga who said it is REVOLUTIONARY for a black man to RAPE a black woman? nope! Burn the witch who said STOP HAVING SONS!

Your guess is as good as mine. Black women HATE feminism and believe its existence to be a threat to their men and sons... so What Language, what Recourse, What TRUTH does she have but her own?

Which has already been invalidated if she:

• Doesn't fuck men
• Doesn't verbally suck men off
• Refuses to privilege the women who birth them
• Consistently pushes the truth about heterosex
• Puts in our face how rape impacts women
• Puts in our face how women's reactions to Male Sexual Terrorism impacts and impedes female live and vitality
• Attempts to explore how the Penis, which is a weapon of Massive Destruction, can in fact return to the Divining Rod Mother Created it to be?

Moreover, if every single woman who reads the blog, or listens to the show (I'm personalizing this here on purpose) fails to question HER OWN SELF and own her own emotional baggage, how can the conversation ever really come into being a productive one? How do we get to the TRUTH that man ain't shyt and the Masculine and Feminine Gynergies are what we need be striving to attain, when we cannot identify the bullshit we do that impedes that growth? That swell?

It isn't only men who seek to snatch a Wombn's wings from her, before she can get them. I find that mothers of male children also do this. Their behavior is to remain unchecked, or else "burn the witch who dares to identify the inherent problems in our practices." Its "you cannot speak about motherhood if you aren't a mother" instead of "i don't want to hear your thoughts on motherhood because you aren't a mother." Cannot have that, it would require that folks be responsible for their own projections.

Get used to me... Imma be here a while. I am unpacking this shyt whether you like it or not. You always have the OPTION to not fukkn read or listen to the show... ya know? No one is MAKING YOU listen. Where are all the bytches CALLING OUT these conscious coon niggas? get off my tits. WHERE IS THE OUTRAGE over NOBLE saying raping black women is REVOLUTIONARY? fuk all you heaux

So when I say, to we sovereign daughters, YOU HAVE TO FIGHT and you cannot EVER view a mother of a son as your friend and ally? When I say that the PATRIARCHY (which really means women who want men to exist and be in power) wants to turn us all into their CATTLE, this is exactly what I am talking about.

YOU SHUT YOUR MOUTH (daughter) SO THAT MOTHER CAN CONTINUE HER FUKKRY unchecked. And it manifests in many different ways, all the time. I expect it, I do not say this shyt JUST to sound nice. MY LIVED EXPERIENCE has showed me that the women who have SONS are your ENEMY when you are a girl child. They will attack you, defame you, lie, slander, libel, justify their sons actions and more.

The Angry Deva has done extensive work in this Arena. Both on the Blog, on the Show and ALL MY LIFE

Something Maya Angelou's Death helped reveal to me: Maya needed to be taught how to communicate after having been raped. I am observing, in myself, this very same need being developed. I am a very BLESSED MESS, and I own it! Unlike most women who parrot regurgitated jizzm, I own my Mess! Now, I ceased writing at all after having been raped a few years ago. I couldn't do it, it literally hurt me to write, to communicate. I am, right now, reteaching myself how to communicate with others. But, clearly, as is evidenced, MOTHERS are interested in RAISING daughters to be the help while LOVING HER SONS. Because not one ounce of compassion, or consideration, has been extended to me. 

Nor will it be, because Mothers of Sons are the enemy of women. Especially raped women. We all have to contend with "you can't hate all men cuz one or 5 or 8 of them raped you," as they say. They are willfully invested in keeping Daughters Small and Silent they are willfully invested in the forgiveness myth. Because if women cease relating to men? Their sons will have NO cattle to prod and breed. They cannot stand our (the daughter's) truth, which is why we have to push all the more to express it and NEVER accept the abusive mother's word for it! Reject her! Reject her lordship over you, mother is a product of patriarchy and she is the gateway/gatekeeper of the patriarchy. Pearls of Wisdom come from anywhere, and if you let her, these broodmares of patriarchy will credit your Pearls and your Wisdom to another. It is the way of these people, rob the daughter to make room for the "son of man" and his mama. Even still, these broodmares of patriarchy have many great pearls if you sift through all the sinking sands.

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It really doesn't pay to be genuine with most bytches... they cannot understand the REAL from those who pretend to be sweet. This is why I'm the Angry Deva round dis bish

I learned this at age 9. When I was 9 years old, after having been chased by boys for early puberty, I was beaten to the ground in elementary school. The boys attempted to feel me up. Enraged, my parents went to my school to have a meeting with the Principle and the mothers of those 5 boys. Their mothers?

"Well what do you expect? Look at her chest! At least my son ain't gay"

I knew THEN, when I was merely in 4th grade, that MOTHERS of men are not protectors of girls. This also helped me realize that my mother had a greater chance of protecting us, because she had not been given a son to birth! She would be MORE invested in protecting us from men, of informing us of who men are and what they do, because her loyalties weren't Divided. She fought for me, she wrestled those women, verbally and energetically, for my right to experience puberty without some son feeling me up and hurting me. She, and my father, stood by me through that. When I began blaming myself, I remember my father telling me it wasn't my fault and that some women shouldn't have been permitted to birth sons. 

This Moment Changed my LIFE

This sparked a thought in my head.... a thought about why some women have sons, some do not. It also prompted me to NEVER want a son. I have experienced, along the way, many women who simply DO NOT DESIRE a son. There are also women, who presently have sons, who never wanted a son. Never wanted ANY CHILDREN AT ALL, but they have sons. I remember the first time I said to another woman "I least of all want male children" and didn't have to deal with her emotional baggage. It was the single most FREEING experience for me, for my inner-daughter. See, when I said to my mama "well i don't wanna have no boys" my mama retorted "well they aren't all like that, you might be different" and at first? I agreed with her. I thought, in my arrogant egoic way, I will be different. I will raise a better son.

Overtime? I came to see that as a SLAP IN THE FACE of every single woman before me who had a son. Every woman who worked her ass off, tried her best, cried to sleep at night over her son; I had just said they merely didn't try hard enough. I didn't see that at first, My declaration wasn't intended to slight other mothers. But it was. It was a statement against the way that sons have turned out, which held MOTHERS responsible for their behaviors. The Mothers only responsibility, and this is my RESOUNDING message, is in birthing him. No matter how she raises him, he still has to contend with society and learn. Many women are WILLING to let men bump around as they please saying whatever the fuck they please.

But our daughters? We definitely do not extend that courtesy. We want the daughters to take lashes we don't even ISSUE to sons, for their thoughts, expressions, formation of concepts and ideas and more. We take ISSUE with women's expressions, women's bodies, women's EXISTENCE period. 

I have learned, its best to learn FOR YOU vs AT YOU. 

Those mothers of sons? Their vitriol was AT ME, not for me, in that moment. Yet, any GOOD alchemist can take what is meant for their Bad and turn it to their Good. This is recognized God Power. 

The attempts of the daughter to articulate her thoughts, experiences and more will ALWAYS be systematically SHUT DOWN by mothers. More specifically, mothers of male children. When this ceases to be true, according to my own lived experiences, I will happily cease saying it. The truth of the matter is, "I was Given this World, I didn't make it!" ~Tupac 

This goes into FEMALE Privilege (mothers voices, experiences and views privileged above child-free women) that impedes female interactions and relationships. When you have a hyper sensitive female, who hasn't yet mastered the For you vs At You concept, it makes it double difficult. 

This (inability to discern for you vs at you) is something I am striving to improve in my life. Can't we all though? <3