The Angry Deva's Blog
Veneration of the Dark Godis is Veneration of the Whole Wombn. Our Power is in Darkness, but first wo-men have to leave our patriarchal conditioning behind - leave the father's house and his rules! Embrace the Way of the Womb!
I write an advice column for a website dedicated to sexual health and pleasure for women of color. I recently received a letter that really struck a chord from a self-described “overweight, Black woman in her late 30s”. She admitted being aware of the dangers of unprotected sex, but kept finding herself in situations where her male partners refused to use condoms. Because of her age and size, she believed her dating options to be severely limited and so she felt pressured to oblige these men, worried they might be her only chance for love and intimacy. In other words, she felt that “beggars can’t be choosers.”
According to the Center for Disease Control, in the United States, African Americans are the demographic most affected by HIV. And in 2010, among African American women, most new cases of HIV (87%) resulted from heterosexual contact! Why any Black woman in this day and age would have unprotected sex is beyond me.
Still, I’d rather spend the rest of my Friday nights alone than spend 10 seconds with an idiot who’s too dumb to protect himself, and too disrespectful to protect me! I am far too precious for that! The average female orgasm only lasts between 10 and 30 seconds. That short-lived burst of pleasure is not worth my life.
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Writing is my Joy and Pleasure. I've been writing creative pieces, analytic pieces and empirical pieces since I learned how! I use my pen and prose to expose people to things they either don't know or never thought of. I am political, analytic, critical all things that Virgo/Gemini is. The Logos is the Eros to me. <3