From Mammy to Mami-Wata: Black Wombn Remember Who You Are

Pictured: Mami Wata, Santa Marta Virgin of the Serpent

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Women aren't weak for wanting a male companion. But we MUSNT let our wanting make us weak and needy. i check that shyt in myself too. We have to Stand in Power, even as a mate.

This is the reason i do not endorse this Viola Davis wig less in the bedroom scenes. I don't like seeing Annalise tell Sam "i need you" and stand in a space of lack in her THRONE ROOM! This representation has been rubbing me the wrong way so much, i haven't kept up with the show.

The message being sent is clear, Black Woman be the CAPTAIN and CHAMPION in the Courtroom, the Law a Class, The Realm of Legality. Sit on the Divine Throne of Judgment in your Work life. But lay down and be a carpet in your bedroom. Lay down and be a hump rag in your bedroom.

I cannot endorse that. I cannot endorse that Black women approach relating to men with or through emotion anymore. Because men do NOT meet you with emotion or approach relation to you in honor of your emotions. How can they? Their very righteous complaint is that they are "oppressed" because they have to be strong and not show emotion. This is something we Share as Black Women with the male population. And the reason we Black Women have a SHARED oppression space with male people is that BLACK WOMEN ARE REGARDED AS MEN and not as women. We are regarded as Masculine and not as Feminine. We are expected to be the Boss everywhere and as such, no one knows how to respond to our pain. This is where the shared space ends with men. When a man yelps he might be ridiculed by the bros... But the broads will swoon.

When a Black Woman Yelps?

No. One. Cares. To. Answer.

For this reason, i do not find women "weak" for wanting male companionship. For even needing male companionship. Because Black women DESERVE AND DESIRE to feel like women.

I had a meeting with a maid service yesterday. All these anxieties came up... "Is it wrong to hire someone? I can just do this myself. So what i am bogged down with a million other projects... My mama cleaned her house."

That is what snapped me out of it. I realized, no. Mama did NOT clean her house. In fact, mama had us to rely on as maids. Which means i have been:

• A cook
• A cleaner
• A laundress
• A tailor
• A style coordinate
• A home decor specialist

For 20 years. At this point, i am seeking to outsource some of my labor needs so i can enjoy my life better. The guilt we have of FEELING FEMININE and honoring our Feminine is astounding. The hold ups between Looking down your body, seeing two magnificent breasts, a curvy waist line and your GLORIOUS VAGINA but being regarded as, expected to, required to act as if you are anything But a Tender, Delicate, Rich, Valuable, Goddess is hell.

It is time to bridge the gap from Mammy to Mami-Wata.