Loving our Dawtas and raising the sons

I take black motherhood to task BECAUSE I was the Dawta once subject to rogue blackmotherhood. out of order living out of order mothering.

The most DISRESPECTFUL slave minded beings on the planet are out here breeding. smh some things i just cannot and will not get with. Primarily, the expectation that your eldest female child step up to be the man you weren't able to procure to co-parent with.

Your female child did not ask to come here and play junior mom so you can pretend like poverty, degradation and LOW INCOME LIVING is ok. Your female child deserves BETTER than to watch you make dumb ass choices and mistakes then u turn around and tell her do betta. HOW? what EXAMPLE have YOU LAID OUT for her to emulate?

I been workin since before i was 13. Watching children in addition to playing junior mom to my sisters so I had money. and even then MY MONEY wasn't mine. when the children needed food and their/our father wasn't sufficient in his earnings to feed them.... it was MY MONEY that bought groceries. when the parental unit was at odds it was MY SHOULDER she cried on, my intelligence she supped from and my ability to be resilient that helped sustain her.

See in SLAVERY we had to lean on our eldest children. We were so busy tending to the plantation and to massa children we had no real time for our own. and now that black womanhood is a SLAVE on a NEW plantation she still has no time to devote to her children. she still is punishing her eldest dawta for HER CONDITIONS in slavery....

only now? Her conditions are the result of her choices and beliefs. These are choices she alone was free to make. I call this the "sisterhood sickness" where we expect a different result while doing the same thing that caused the present effects we lament. The "Sisterhood sickness" begins in BLACK HOMES where SINGLE MOTHERS lord over their daughters to make HER COMPLY with the depravity SHE calls life and living. You FORCE your daughter to do Your job and get Then many "mothers" become pissy with their dawta when she exerts ADULT ATTITUDE along with the ADULT RESPONSIBILITY you lay upon her. How can our dawtas "be in a childs place" when the child is playing adult?

I call bullshit on all black women who think its that eldest daughters job to clean house, cook food, wash dishes. DOUBLE IT if ya ass ain't workin. WHY THE HELL must she do SHYT in to maintain your household for you? Trust me you will be real quick to REMIND HER it is YOUR house hold when she check ya ass on stupid shit u do that costs HER her right to be a Maiden.

Some of you women have BEAUTIFUL daughters... and you HATE your daughter self SO MUCH you HATE your daughter. or you HATE her father and you take it out on her. or YOU FEEL ENTITLED to the respect afforded a Wombn and a God but REFUSE TO HONOR HER IN THE SAME WAY.

Our daughters are fucked up because of FUCKED UP BLACK MOTHERING. You cannot BEAT YOUR DAUGHTER SENSELESS and tell her you love her then wonder why the dick she brought home is beating her and she won't leave him. YOU TRAINED HER that BEATINGS AND DISRESPECT meant love and only happened ONCE in a while when u lost ur temper. WHAT, pray tell, is the difference between YOUR FISTS your WORDS your HANDS SLAPPING THE PISS OUTTA HER (for being JUST LIKE You and doingnthe things you used to do) and HIS FISTS HIS WORDS HIS HANDS SLAPPING THE PISS OUTTA HER FOR BEING JUST LIKE HIM?

time out for the bullshit. The state of Black wombnhood will improve when Mothers begin LOVING THEIR DAWTAS and RAISING their sons. At this present moment, the reverse is true. And we see how well that has fared for the family....