The Grand Power in Unforgiveness

Forgiving others does NOT bring you peace. I get that this is the popular doctrine, but I am here, as an Indigo, to challenge the status quo and what we have accepted as normative.

When one forgive's a person for wrong-doing or harm done and they repeat the behavior requiring your forgiveness all you have done is left yourself open to deeper greater hurt and trauma. The expectation that someone, who has already shown you who they are and most often repeatedly, will suddenly cease doing what has hurt you is the basis of our present conceptualization of forgiveness. I have heard it said that "forgiveness is for you not the other person" and all types of regurgitated soundbites invented to sell an idea and popularize a concept.

When has what is "popular" meant what is right? Haven't we proven, time and again, throughout historic cultural shifts, that which is popular is often problematic?

I want to challenge us to think about forgiveness in a new light. What if, instead of forgiving the aggressor/abuser/asshole in our lives we forgive OURSELVES for granting ACCESS to the people who disrespect/harm/deny your Beingness?  When you CEASE to permit them access to repeat their offensive behavior, you remove yourself from active participation in their lack of respect for you. You prioritize your integrity and needs above the appearance of a union or relationship or circumstance. Appearances and illusions rule our world and way of connection, so I get that it is a powerful illusion to bust up and be freed from. But challenge yourself. See how it helps you to grow! 

The healing needed after someone you love, respect, honor has hurt, disrespected, betrayed you is easy to come, once you have REMOVED the source of infection/harm from you. 

No one rubs floor dirt into an open wound! Sensible folks will clean out the wound and bandage it to keep it safe from infection. When you have been wounded, do not rub floor dirt into your wound. And do not leave it open. Seek closure and allow yourself the full recovery you are entitled to as a child of the Universe.

We do not, presently, treat a virus by feeding it and giving it greater access. We begin a course of ANTI-BODIES to kill the source of the illness. We also build different levels of tolerance/immunity to infections already encountered/experienced. It takes a complete detoxification of the system to accomplish this.

Self-Centered Being and Loving in 5D. Going from Victim to Victor by being God in Motion, all ways, always, alway.