The Angry Deva's Blog
Veneration of the Dark Godis is Veneration of the Whole Wombn. Our Power is in Darkness, but first wo-men have to leave our patriarchal conditioning behind - leave the father's house and his rules! Embrace the Way of the Womb!
hmmmm.... I am thinking about the Politics of Image and Illusion this morning.
In the "who is the most womanly" game for black women? we have to contend with:
The Cage of Black Wombn's Oppression
colorism: light to dark, we are all heaux in this system
shapeism: body proportions, women injecting themselves with botulism and other poisons to comply with the male ideal of Feminine Beauty.
slutisms: which is the pro and anti arguments regarding Female Sexual Servicing of Male sexuality. this applies only when women are engaging men sexually. and keep in mind, it is the Official Position of the Deva that ALL WOMEN WHO FUCK MEN are sluts. this is a title that is assigned to we who are of heterosexual identity.
sizeism: thick, fat, obese, overweight, morbidly overweight all classifications aimed at making black women feel small regardless of their health or vitality. this conversation is rarely about the health of the women being discussed. it is always about what we think looks best.
hairism: natural vs weave vs creamy crack bullcaca
Black Heterosexism: which in this case would apply to the expectation that women be sexually available for men. in our case, that Black women, regardless to their own lived horrors or the truth about black men, must have a sexuality that is exclusively available to black maledom. it is also the assumption that any woman who chooses a non black man is less than, dirty, or crazy. I have heard women say: "no matter what a black man does you still shouldn't discount him as a mating choice" which i vehemently disagree with. But I hold different views from most other folk about relating, mating and dating, anyway. Heterosexuality is not natural. Heterosexuality has roots in rape, and is a sexual identity that has been assigned to women to ensure patriarchal rulership over us all.
motherism: the valuation of a woman based on her choices to breed. conversely the valuation of a woman based on her choices NOT TO BE BRED by some man. it is also the ascription of MOTHER to female Sexual identity as a CONSEQUENCE of female sexual expression. which is valid, because babies are a CONSEQUENCE of man fucking. it is a sexually transmitted disease we decided to privilege along the way. note again: all man fuckers are sluts and judged as such due to their choice to relate to males sexually.
whoreism: the shaming of black womens Relationship choices when they fall outside of fuckin black men. the shaming of black womens SEXUAL AUTONOMY and RIGHT to self define that autonomy without a bunch of man fucking women coming in to "denounce" her right to reject the hetero identity. the shaming of black women's children out of wedlock is the shaming of her sexuality as well.
So, as I reviewed these isms, these political prisons of black womanhood, and not only review them but review the "conversations" black women are engaging in regarding these issues; i'm just underwhelmed at the level of analysis being offered on the topics. None of you are saying anything cutting edge or anything we don't already know about these topics. Most women? they are merely ripping off what other women do and say. they are parroting back the shyt we already done heard. Yes, we know that most people judge you based on what you look like outside.
Gabby Sidibe, I am sure, is aware of how deeply black women hate her for daring to be a fabulous fat woman. She continues to shine and love herself. And fat black women are also thankful for her. I mean, even though the "skinny divas" all celebrate Lupita and her "black beauty" she is the type of black beauty we love to celebrate. Her near european physic and stature is something black women can look at and celebrate as their own, because she is wearing the right colored costume. Gabby? She never had a chance to be hailed as the it girl for dark skinned glamour because she doesn't fit the fuckability requirement that black heterosexist women demand. Let's just be honest, none of you give a fuck about a woman's size or shape. you ONLY CARE that she looks good. (See Pam Oliver's Hair Hat fiasco)
Over on Angry Devas? Over here? With me, the Triple DARK GOD-is? Who don't give a flying FUCK about convention, tradition, alleged codes of conduct and "normal" ways of communicating and engaging issues?
We do none of that bullshit. Don't believe me? Check my track record. Check out the Website: www.angrydevas.com check out our Blogtalk Radio Show: www.blogtalk.com/angrydevas
And the WONDERFUL THING about it all? is it CHALLENGES WOMEN to face the shyt they been hiding from. I know it does because it challenges ME to examine, speak on, address all the shyt that I haven't been addressing and checking into.
It has aided me in standing back up again after a terribly devastating set of blows in my life. and accordingly?
Many MANY MANY women write me, call in, send notes to our site saying:
THANK YOU FOR SAYING WHAT NO ONE ELSE IS SAYING. Because of your show I left that no account mf who hated me. Because of your show I decided my life was worth living. Your show gave me life! Your show really helped me deal with something I am processing in my own life, thank you.
THIS MAKES IT WORTH IT!
I AM A BETTER, MORE HAPPY, MORE SURE AND SECURE WOMAN. A WOMAN OF STRONG CONVICTIONS WHO REFUSES to back down, yet has learned the WISDOM in shutting the fuck up when necessary. When it is necessary to STFU? when the shyt don't apply to you. when it isn't YOUR TRUTH when there is NOTHING you can do about it.
But for my life? I am standing on what I got and who i am! I am simply teaching ME. anyone along the way who should so happen to be encouraged and empowered? GREAT! GRAND!
but this is a VERY SELFISH endeavor. This is a VANITY IS SALVATION endeavor: Angry Devas. this is about Self-Centered Focus. Building and sharing and healing too.
Living outloud and on purpose according to my way. Submitting to no truth but my own. Living according to no CREED but my own. Not the mule of the black community.... but the GOD OF MY OWN LIFE.
I want to encourage MORE WOMEN to be trail blazers. to be WONDERFUL to be honest when themselves. Speak your truth, stand on your Square and don't listen to these blackistani haters. Nothing will ever really make them happy as a group, to be honest I don't think black folks WANT HAPPINESS as a collective. I think, black folks en masse, are addicted to scandal, drama, traumatizing others, and being abusive in our relating to one another. In order to survive the-blackistani -think-tank, you HAVE to have the Backbone of a Sycamore and the Skin of an Alligator. You will have to be prepared for the massive amounts of ignorance, arrogance, judgment, hatred and down right disgusting animalistic assault of those who, quite simply:
hate you cuz they aint you!
Be encouraged, inner-powered and FLY =FIRST LOVE YOURSELF
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Writing is my Joy and Pleasure. I've been writing creative pieces, analytic pieces and empirical pieces since I learned how! I use my pen and prose to expose people to things they either don't know or never thought of. I am political, analytic, critical all things that Virgo/Gemini is. The Logos is the Eros to me. <3