The Strong Black Woman; Keeping the Divine Feminine small enough to fit in Patriarchy©®

The "strong black woman" archetype is yet another trap against our Divine Feminine. The goal?

Keep the Divine feminine small enough to fit into this patriarchal world. "Strong black woman" fulfills that, in that she goes it alone. This is a gross way of keeping the Divine in black Wombn small enough to fit the present societal structure. She modifies her lifestyle to accommodate the wounding of her Feminine and the complete castration of her Divine Masculine, internal.

In being "strong black woman" the Diminished, Wounded and Ignorant forced vibration of black Wombnhood; the (formerly) Divine state of the Black Wombnhood is conveniently trapped. She is over worked, over burdened, and in need of assistance and support she will never receive. Not from her community, her family, or society at large. Moreover? "Strong black woman" doesnt truly want liberation from her present vibration, as it is all she has ever known. She never gets it, this help she needs and deserves, because "strong black woman" is the cock-blocking friend, so to speak. "Strong black woman" is so deeply afraid of not being necessary, afraid of the other side of her identity? She sabotages the divinity of the Black Wombn. A cheap trade off that is dismissed away with "i can do bad all by myself." And "i dont need anyone." And "i do it better."

This is not the same as the Solitary Witch archetype. No no no, "strong black woman" is the pits. She is a political slave, a religious fool, an emotional tool and easily manipulated. Her lovingness, giving nature, and huge heart have all but been trampled on, which makes the Wounded Feminine facade of "strong black woman" all the more appealing and justifiable. The world is cruel, unkind, large and out to get her. Every thing that ails her? She will simply soldier on through. Never stoping to weigh the cost and value, the impact itself that this has on herself and her children.

Forced to survive a global climate of Black Female degradation, hatred and the insane jealousy of women and men who look like her; "strong black woman" becomes the slave masters overseer. She lords over her children, and her family with an iron fist. Seeking to control the lives of those who NEED HER (her children that is) "strong black woman" acts this way because she lacks self control. She lacks self discipline and a sense of direction of her own life. Thus?

She has become the Slave masters overseer. She isnt Divine. She is barely a mother save the strictest terms of definition. She is wounded, hurting, in need of restoration. And a threat to herself and others.

She is not your friend. She is not your sister she is not here for you. She is the replacement. The hybrid version of your Highest Self, of your God Consciousness. Nothing on this planet goes it alone. You didnt come into the world alone, you had the entire Cosmos and your Divine Creatrix (ya mama) with you.

"Strong black woman" and "good black man" are in desperate need of being voted off the island.

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This past winter we did a 3 part series on The Mother Wound. It was intensive and very enlightening, as i opened up about my own mothers wounds. Our mothers are diminished, under-supported, oppressed, burdened, unfulfilled. This woundedness destroys mother-daughter relationships and absolutely impedes Female Relationships to and with one another. We cannot trust one another, we have learned early on that some women simply are too broken, hurting, and moreover HAPPY stuck there, to engage safely.

This? Is THE REASON I will NEVER again speak to my own mother. It wasnt an easy decision, it took a lot of courage, Self-Investment and true Self-Esteem to accomplish this. All my life, i had been groomed to not only accept the abusive treatment of my mother as normal, but as loving. It was a "normal" "loving" and i was simply "overreacting" and "selfish" to decry the constant assault against my person.

"Examples of patriarchal power plays from mothers:

Daughter is used as her emotional dumping ground
Mother is neglectful but uses daughter as narcissistic tool to bring her attention
Mother has no use for you if you don’t conform to her views. “Her way or the highway.”
Manipulative tactics: cold withdrawal, overt hostility or bullying, unpredictable, competition, jealousy, triangulating daughter against other family members (Note: All these dynamics could be played out with a son as well. And they could also be features of mental illness in the mother.)"

My mother refuses to do her Healing work and as such is a great threat and danger to my growth and healing. My mother sabotaged every single thing i ever wanted to do for myself. If it gave me even the slightest bit of Joy or Pleasure? She would remove it from my life or seek to compromise my enjoyment of it. This went on from the age of 2-25 when i finally walked away from her.

The best choice i ever made? Was leaving her behind. It was difficult. It was heavy. It hurt. I almost didnt follow through. But eventually my desire for a life of Love, Honor, Integrity, Growth and Healing was greater than the programming of "honor your mother."

Nothing i ever did, no amount of making myself small; no level of support and understanding of her illogical lifestyle was enough. Nor would it soothe her or help her grow. Eventually? I had to see that not only was i prohibiting my own growth; i was absolutely enabling her nasty, jealous, vampiritic nature.

Women often say "your mothers cannot help it. She too is a product of patriarchy" and i say tough titty. You do not get to be the cattle of the patriarchy and also over-burden your daughters with all of your insidious jealousy. ***Women need either invest in themselves as worthy of healing an as worthy of being more than the mere cattle of men in patriarchy.... Or STOP HAVING CHILDREN!***

Women, mothers, by and large are suffering with untreated mental health issues. Black Mothers in particular are suffering from gross mental health issues; that go untreated and arent diagnosed. Black women have a culture that enables their mental illness and debase hatred of their choices to be mothers. The "black community" has a culture of silence in regards to issues of Mental Health; and Mental health issues is "something white women experience."

This stems from the false, self-sabotaging persona of "strong black woman." The "strong black woman" needs no help, because she can destroy her daughter under the guise of "teaching her responsibility." The "strong black woman" can thug it out through all ills, injustices, harms, road blocks, untreated sexual abuse, financial abuse, mental abuse, spiritual/religious abuse, and keep
Her head up.

The only person who knows that the "strong black woman" is really a mentally ill, overwhelmed, undiagnosed being in need of help, is her children.

See this mother wound? Is the reason i will not be birthing children. It is the reason i have called for a cease birthing for 40 years for black Wombn. Hell all Wombn but us especially!

This is a MUST read. And check the comments for the link to OUR OWN Mother Wound series on The Angry Devas Radio Show!

The most insidious forms of patriarchy pass through the mother
Patriarchy is the social organization of a culture in which men hold more power than women. There is a common misconception that men are the only problem of patriarchy. Many continue to believe tha...
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The most insidious forms of patriarchy pass through the mother

Patriarchy is the social organization of a culture in which men hold more power than women. There is a common misconception that men are the only problem of patriarchy. Many continue to believe tha...

womboflight.com